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Why Her Texts Are Slow: Understanding Mixed Signals in Dating

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The Situation

"She texts me first then takes forever to reply"

The Brutal Truth

Her taking forever to reply after texting first means she's not as invested as she appears. She's stringing you along, causing confusion and insecurity. If she wanted to communicate, she’d make it a priority instead of keeping you in limbo.

❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)

An anxious person might obsessively check their phone or escalate the conversation, trying to gain reassurance. This only pushes the other person further away, as it can come across as clingy or desperate. Instead, focus on your self-worth and set boundaries.

💭 Something to Reflect On

What part of you believes you have to play games to get someone’s attention?

✨ What To Do Next

Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.

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You don't have to figure this out alone. Let's work together to help you trust yourself, set boundaries, and attract the love you deserve.

Mariana - Relationship Coach

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