Understanding Affection in Relationships: Are You Being Manipulated?
The Situation
"She only shows affection when she wants something"
The Brutal Truth
Her affection is a tool; she only uses it to get what she wants. When the desire fades, so does her warmth. It’s manipulation, showing a lack of genuine care or commitment. You deserve more than to be a means to an end.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try harder to please her, believing that increasing affection will ensure her love or attention. This is unhealthy because it puts their self-worth in her hands, tolerating manipulation instead of respecting their own needs.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What patterns do I notice in my past relationships that have led me to accept conditional love?
✨ What To Do Next
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