Why Custom Vows Without Collaboration Are a Red Flag in Relationships
The Situation
"She insists on custom vows but won't help write them"
The Brutal Truth
She wants personal vows to make the occasion special but isn’t willing to put in the effort herself. This indicates selfishness and a lack of true partnership, leaving you to shoulder a significant emotional load.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might start doubting their worth, scrambling to please her or overcompensating by writing stunning vows alone, ultimately neglecting their own needs. This only perpetuates unhealthy dynamics and builds resentment.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What do I need from a partner to feel truly supported and valued in this relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
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