Navigating a Partner Who Rejects Your Native Language for Kids
The Situation
"He doesn't want our kids speaking my native language"
The Brutal Truth
He's signaling his discomfort with your culture and language, implying it devalues your identity. This is a red flag about his acceptance of you and your heritage. He may expect you to compromise important parts of who you are for his preferences.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to convince him to change his mind or suppress their own feelings to avoid conflict, which only reinforces unhealthy patterns. This is wrong because it compromises your identity for his comfort.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What does it mean to you when someone dismisses an integral part of your identity, like your language?
✨ What To Do Next
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