Understanding Different Life Goals in Dating: Red Flags
The Situation
"He has different life goals than me"
The Brutal Truth
He isn't aligned with your vision for the future. His differing life goals signal a lack of commitment and consideration for what matters to you. This isn't just about preference; it's about fundamentally being on different paths.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
Anxiously, you might try to convince him to change his goals or settle for less than you desire, thinking you can make it work. This mindset leads to further emotional sacrifice and ultimately ignoring your own needs.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you believes you can change someone else's goals or desires instead of prioritizing your own?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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