Understanding Distant Partners Who Refuse Couples Therapy
The Situation
"She refuses couples therapy but complains I'm distant"
The Brutal Truth
His refusal to pursue couples therapy while complaining about your distance signals avoidance. He likely wants to maintain control in the relationship without addressing deeper issues. This creates an unbalanced dynamic and hinders genuine connection.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
Anxious people might overcompensate, trying harder to connect while ignoring their own needs. This is detrimental as it can trap them in a cycle of seeking validation from someone who isn't investing equally.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What does it say about your relationship patterns that you’re willing to accept distance instead of advocating for closeness?
✨ What To Do Next
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