Dating Someone Older: When Maturity Becomes a Red Flag
The Situation
"He's 15 years older and says I'm too immature"
The Brutal Truth
Him calling you immature is a power play. At 15 years older, he's likely projecting his insecurities onto you, masking his inability to handle genuine emotional intimacy. This is more about his need to control than your actual maturity level.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might over-explain or seek his reassurance, fearing rejection and trying to prove their worth. This is a mistake because it reinforces his perspective, putting you in a position where you feel less than, instead of confidently standing your ground.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you feels the need to prove your maturity in this relationship, and why?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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