Why Dating Someone Who Expects You to Learn Their Language Is a Red Flag
The Situation
"He won't learn my language but expects me to learn his"
The Brutal Truth
He values his culture over yours and shows no willingness to connect on your terms. This is a power imbalance; he’s expecting you to adapt without reciprocation, which screams inconsideration and entitlement. You deserve mutual effort and respect.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might feel pressured to immediately learn his language to please him, sacrificing their sense of self and personal boundaries. This is wrong because it reinforces unhealthy dynamics and ignores the necessity for mutual respect and effort in a relationship.
💭 Something to Reflect On
How does it feel to navigate a relationship where your needs aren't considered? What would you tell yourself if you were in a healthy partnership?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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