What It Means When He Says Our Goals Don't Align
The Situation
"He said we'll figure it out but our goals don't align"
The Brutal Truth
He’s telling you that he doesn’t see a future together and is avoiding full accountability for ending it. Instead of being direct, he offers a vague hope that ultimately leads nowhere. It's a sign of inconsistency and emotional unavailability.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might cling to the hope that things will change or try to persuade him to see their alignment. This is wrong because it neglects their own needs and self-worth, allowing someone else to dictate their emotional reality.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of my life requires clearer boundaries so I won’t settle for less than I deserve?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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