Why He Never Plans Visits and What It Means for You
The Situation
"He won't plan mutual visits and says I should always fly"
The Brutal Truth
He's prioritizing his comfort over your relationship, expecting you to make all the effort. This is a classic sign of emotional unavailability and a lack of commitment. You're not just a person to visit—you're seeking a partner who values shared experiences.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might keep accommodating his demands in hopes that one day he’ll change, exhausting themselves in the process. This is wrong because it reinforces unhealthy patterns and delays growth. You deserve reciprocity in effort, not emotional labor alone.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does it say about my self-worth if I'm willing to do all the heavy lifting in this relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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