When He Claims He Needs to Focus on Himself but Uses Dating Apps
The Situation
"He said he needs to focus on himself but is on dating apps"
The Brutal Truth
He’s not really working on himself; he’s keeping options open while using the 'self-care' excuse. This suggests he’s emotionally unavailable and unwilling to commit, using his focus on self as a shield to date around.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might chase him, trying to prove their worth or seek reassurance despite his mixed signals. This only feeds into unhealthy dynamics and keeps them stuck in uncertainty.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does this behavior reveal about my relationship patterns, and how can I prioritize my self-worth above seeking validation from someone who's not ready?
✨ What To Do Next
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