How to Text Without Seeming Desperate: A Guide for Women
The Situation
"I want to text him but I don't want to seem desperate"
The Brutal Truth
His behavior suggests he's not invested enough if you're feeling anxious about reaching out. This indicates he's potentially using you as a backup plan, which is both unfair and disrespectful.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might overly analyze every word before texting, fearing they will come off as needy. This mindset is toxic because it undermines their self-worth and leads to unhealthy communication patterns.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What part of you believes that expressing your desire to connect is a weakness?
✨ What To Do Next
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