How to Recognize and Address Trauma-Related Dependency in Relationships
The Situation
"She expects me to fix her trauma with reassurance"
The Brutal Truth
He feels overwhelmed by her expectation that he should heal her trauma. This indicates a lack of emotional responsibility and an unwillingness to engage in serious, constructive work on both sides. He’s essentially saying, "I’m not here to fix you!"
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might excessively reassure him, fearing that pushing for independence will lead to abandonment. This isn't healthy; it enables dependency and neglects their own needs.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What patterns in your relationships have made you feel responsible for someone else's healing?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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