Trust Issues from an Ex: How to Handle Toxic Dating Patterns
The Situation
"She has trust issues from her ex and takes it out on me"
The Brutal Truth
Instead of owning her trust issues, she's projecting her fear onto you. This is a sign of emotional unavailability and a refusal to take responsibility for her past. If she can't work through her issues, it's not your job to fix them.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
You might feel the urge to overly accommodate her insecurities, think it's your job to prove her wrong, or even ask constantly about her feelings. This is a mistake; it enables her toxic behavior and makes you lose your sense of self-worth.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would it look like to set boundaries with someone who refuses to address their unresolved issues?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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