His Accusation of Faking Pain: What It Really Means
The Situation
"He accuses me of faking pain to avoid intimacy"
The Brutal Truth
He’s projecting his own issues onto you. Calling your pain fake is an emotional manipulation tactic to dodge intimacy. It shifts blame away from him while invalidating your feelings, a huge red flag in any relationship.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
You might over-explain or try to prove your pain is real to him, which only keeps you in a cycle of self-doubt. This move feeds into his gaslighting instead of standing firm in your truth.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you accepts blame or doubt when challenged, and how can you reclaim your narrative?
✨ What To Do Next
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