How to Address Undermining Behavior in Co-Parenting Relationships
The Situation
"He undermines my rules in front of the kids"
The Brutal Truth
He's showing you that he disrespects your authority and boundaries, especially in front of the children. This undermines your parenting and creates a toxic environment. It indicates a lack of team effort in co-parenting and a disregard for your feelings.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might feel pressured to compromise more on their rules or try to appease him in hopes of maintaining peace in front of the kids. This is wrong because it teaches children that it's acceptable to disregard boundaries.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What non-negotiable values do I want my partner to respect, especially as a co-parent?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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