Understanding Emotional Unavailability: When Communication Falls Flat
The Situation
"She said she doesn't know how to help so she doesn't try"
The Brutal Truth
Her saying she doesn't know how to help indicates emotional unavailability and a lack of effort to engage in the relationship. This behavior signals that she prefers to deflect responsibility rather than support you, leaving you feeling unsupported and confused.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might overextend themselves, trying to show they are worthy of help or understanding, which ends up enabling her emotional distance. This misguided effort can lead to more pain and frustration, leaving their own needs unaddressed.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What would it feel like to prioritize your emotional needs over someone else's uncertainty?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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