When He Blames You for His Bad Behavior: Gaslighting Explained
The Situation
"He said I'm the problem when he's the one acting badly"
The Brutal Truth
He’s trying to evade responsibility by flipping the narrative, making you feel like the problem when he’s the one acting out. This is classic gaslighting, aimed at undermining your confidence and perception of reality.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
You might try to over-explain or apologize to avoid conflict, thinking it will win his approval. This is toxic! It only reinforces his behavior and minimizes your worth. It’s not your job to fix his issues.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you is drawn to someone who shifts blame instead of owning their actions?
✨ What To Do Next
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