Understanding Accusations in Dating: Is He Gaslighting or Just Avoidant?
The Situation
"She accuses me of not wanting a family when I ask questions"
The Brutal Truth
His defensiveness shows he's uncomfortable with deep discussions about commitment. Instead of addressing your concerns, he deflects by accusing you, indicating unresolved fears about intimacy and family. This means he might not be ready or willing to meet your emotional needs.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might over-apologize or backtrack to avoid conflict, fearing it will push him away. This is wrong because it invalidates their feelings and perpetuates unhealthy dynamics by prioritizing his comfort over their emotional well-being.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What past experiences are influencing your reactions to being accused in this way, and how can you break that cycle?
✨ What To Do Next
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