Understanding Commitment Pressure in Dating: Red Flags Ahead
The Situation
"She pressures me to commit to future plans I'm not ready for"
The Brutal Truth
His reluctance to commit reflects his discomfort with vulnerability and responsibility. He’s resisting her push for plans because he’s not emotionally prepared, revealing a lack of maturity and clarity in the relationship.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might respond by over-explaining themselves or making excuses for his behavior, believing it's their job to reassure him. This is wrong because it shifts the responsibility of emotional readiness onto them, instead of recognizing their own needs.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does it reveal about your self-worth when someone struggles to commit?
✨ What To Do Next
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