What to Do When Your Adventure-Driven Date Isn’t Aligning with You
The Situation
"He plans backpacking adventures when I prefer hotels"
The Brutal Truth
He’s focused on his preferences without considering yours, which indicates a lack of mutual respect. His adventures are a distraction from deeper connections, revealing his avoidance of emotional intimacy.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might bend their preferences just to please him, sacrificing their comfort to avoid conflict. This only leads to resentment and self-neglect. Stop compromising when your needs are not met.
💭 Something to Reflect On
In what ways do I prioritize someone else’s interests over my own, and how does that reflect my self-worth?
✨ What To Do Next
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