Why Taking It Slow Upsets Her: Understanding Commitment Issues
The Situation
"She gets upset when I want to take things slow"
The Brutal Truth
His desire to take things slow is actually a red flag; he may not be ready for a commitment and feels uncomfortable with emotional intimacy. Instead of directly communicating his fears, he projects those feelings onto her.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might overanalyze her reaction, question her feelings, or try to change her mind by appeasing him. This is wrong because it minimizes their own feelings and pushes them into a cycle of seeking approval instead of mutual understanding.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What does my ideal relationship look like when both partners are aligned in their intentions?
✨ What To Do Next
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