Why Always Initiating Plans Signals Trouble in Dating
The Situation
"I'm always the one initiating plans and conversations"
The Brutal Truth
He’s not invested in the relationship if you’re the only one reaching out. It shows emotional unavailability and a lack of effort. You deserve someone who actively participates in building the connection, not just a passive recipient of your time and energy.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might overanalyze every missed text or call, spiraling into self-doubt and questioning their worth. This is harmful because it places the responsibility on you to make things work, rather than addressing the lack of reciprocity in the relationship.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you believes that pursuing someone and initiating plans means they care?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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