Always Making Plans? Understand the Imbalance in Your Dating Life
The Situation
"I'm always the one making plans and she just goes along with it"
The Brutal Truth
This means she’s not invested in the relationship. You're chasing connection while she’s comfortable with the status quo. This isn’t participation; it’s passive detachment, reflecting a lack of shared investment and emotional availability from her side.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might keep making more elaborate plans to seek validation or re-confirm her interest, thinking that if they try harder, things will improve. This is misguided because it only reinforces the imbalance and neglects your own needs.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would it feel like to prioritize dating someone who actively contributes to your plans and joy?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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