Is She Keeping You as a Backup While Dating Someone Else?
The Situation
"She keeps me as backup while dating locally"
The Brutal Truth
She sees you as a back-up option while pursuing other interests. This means you’re not her priority, and your emotional investment isn’t reciprocated. You're caught in a situation that’s more about convenience for her than mutual interest.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might overanalyze every message and try harder to win her attention, believing they need to prove their worth. This approach is misguided and reinforces insecurity rather than fostering self-respect and assertiveness.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you is willing to accept being a backup, and how can you honor your needs for consistent, genuine connection?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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