Why Some Men Want Benefits Without Commitment
The Situation
"He wants all the benefits of a relationship without the commitment"
The Brutal Truth
He's playing you for what you can give him without any real investment. It’s selfish and manipulative. He enjoys the perks of a relationship while avoiding any real responsibility. This is emotional unavailability at its finest.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might cling harder, begging him for clarity and commitment. This only reinforces his behavior and shows that you don’t value your own worth. Remember, you deserve someone who is ALL IN, not just dipping a toe in.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would it look like to prioritize your emotional safety over someone else's temporary comfort?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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