Why Blaming You for Disappearing Photos is a Red Flag
The Situation
"She refuses to back up photos but blames me when they disappear"
The Brutal Truth
She’s deflecting responsibility for her own actions and manipulating you into feeling guilty. Instead of facing her shortcomings, she uses blame as a shield, prioritizing her needs over your feelings. This indicates a lack of accountability and emotional maturity.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
You might feel the urge to apologize or fix her problem, desperately trying to reassure her. This is wrong because it enables her toxic behavior and undermines your self-worth. You don’t need to take on her burdens to maintain her affection.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What unhealthy patterns in relationships have led you to accept blame or responsibility for others' mistakes?
✨ What To Do Next
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