He Blames Me for His Overdraft Fees: Red Flag Alert
The Situation
"He blames me for his overdraft fees"
The Brutal Truth
This is a severe lack of accountability. He’s projecting his financial irresponsibility onto you, unwilling to own his mistakes. This behavior indicates emotional immaturity and toxicity in the relationship, where blame-shifting is a tactic to avoid taking responsibility for his actions.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might over-apologize or feel guilty for his financial issues, believing that if they appease him, they can fix the situation. This is wrong because it reinforces unhealthy dynamics where someone else’s problems become your burden.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What boundaries do I need to set in order to protect my emotional and financial well-being?
✨ What To Do Next
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