When He Claims Boundaries Are Controlling: A Warning Sign
The Situation
"He said boundaries are controlling"
The Brutal Truth
His remark about boundaries reveals a fundamental disregard for your needs and autonomy. He’s projecting his fear of commitment and responsibility. This mindset is toxic and shows he’s not ready for a mature relationship.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person may start to question their worth and attempt to prove that boundaries are reasonable. This is misguided because it lets him manipulate the narrative and alter your self-value instead of standing firm in your needs.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does it say about his willingness to respect you when he brands your healthy boundaries as controlling?
✨ What To Do Next
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