Why Changing the Subject is a Red Flag in Dating
The Situation
"He changes the subject every time I bring up my feelings"
The Brutal Truth
His behavior means he's avoiding emotional intimacy and denying your needs. This suggests either unawareness or a lack of willingness to engage with your feelings, which is a major red flag for healthy communication.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might push harder, demand to be heard, or over-apologize, thinking they can somehow 'fix' the situation. This often makes things worse and reinforces their feelings of insecurity.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
If your feelings aren't met with interest or respect, what does that tell you about what you truly deserve in a relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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