Why Comparing You to an Ex Is a Massive Red Flag in Dating
The Situation
"She compares me to her ex whenever I make a mistake"
The Brutal Truth
She's using past pain to judge you, showing she hasn't healed. Your mistakes reflect her insecurities, not your worth. This behavior points to unresolved issues that shouldn’t burden a new relationship. It's toxic and manipulative, limiting your growth and connection.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try endlessly to prove themselves, bending over backwards to avoid criticism. This is wrong because it reinforces their insecurity and allows toxic behavior to flourish instead of holding the partner accountable for their emotional baggage.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What do I need to release from my past to fully embrace a healthy relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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