Why Comparing You to an Ex on a First Date is a Major Red Flag
The Situation
"He compared me to his ex on our first date"
The Brutal Truth
He still has unresolved feelings for his ex and is projecting that onto you. He’s not ready to move forward, and you’re just a placeholder while he figures things out. This isn’t about you; it's about his emotional baggage.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to seek validation or reassurance from him, perhaps by downplaying their own reaction or trying to prove they're better than the ex. This approach only feeds into insecurity and keeps them stuck in a toxic cycle.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you believes it's acceptable to be compared to someone else, and how can you shift that belief to prioritize your own uniqueness and worth?
✨ What To Do Next
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