Why Comparing You to Other Men Is a Major Red Flag in Dating
The Situation
"She compares me to other men constantly"
The Brutal Truth
She’s not valuing you for who you are. Instead, she’s seeking validation from comparisons, showing emotional insecurity and a lack of commitment. This behavior says you don’t measure up to her expectations, and it’s tearing down your self-worth.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try harder to 'prove' their worth by changing themselves or doing more for her. This is wrong because it compromises their authenticity and feeds into unhealthy dynamics where they feel they have to earn love instead of being valued for who they are.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you believes you need to earn someone's love and attention?
✨ What To Do Next
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