Why Competing Instead of Supporting in Relationships is Toxic
The Situation
"He competes with me instead of supporting me"
The Brutal Truth
His need to compete reveals insecurity. He views your achievements as threats, not victories to celebrate. This behavior shows he lacks emotional maturity and is not capable of providing the support and partnership you deserve.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person may try to downplay their own achievements or over-apologize to keep the peace, believing they need to minimize themselves for love. This is toxic! You should never have to shrink yourself for someone else's comfort.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of me feels unworthy or undeserving of unqualified support in a partner?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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