Understanding Controlling Behavior in Relationships
The Situation
"She calls me controlling when I enforce screen limits"
The Brutal Truth
Calling someone controlling for setting screen limits is a manipulation tactic to deflect accountability. He’s unwilling to respect boundaries, disguising his insecurity or need for control as a concern about fairness.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might apologize excessively or back down from their boundaries just to keep the peace. This reinforces toxic behavior and doesn't promote a healthy relationship dynamic.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What do your boundaries say about your self-worth and what you’re willing to accept?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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