Dating Dilemma: He Expects Childcare Without Rules
The Situation
"He won't let me set rules but expects me to babysit"
The Brutal Truth
He's using you as a caretaker while avoiding commitment and accountability. He wants all the benefits of a relationship without any boundaries or responsibilities. Essentially, he’s manipulating the situation for his comfort, and that’s deeply unfair to you.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to appease him, making excuses for his behavior or overcompensating to keep him happy. This is toxic because it sacrifices your needs and boundaries for someone who clearly disregards them.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would it feel like to clearly define your boundaries and only engage with someone who respects them?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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