Dating Red Flag: When He Expects You to Be His Emotional Coach
The Situation
"He expects me to coach him through his trauma"
The Brutal Truth
He's looking for you to fix his pain instead of taking responsibility for his healing. This is a manipulative and selfish expectation that turns you into his emotional crutch, draining your energy while he sidesteps his own growth.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might overextend themselves, trying to be the caretaker, thinking they can 'save' him. This is unhealthy and reinforces a dynamic where your needs are neglected for his.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What boundaries do I need to set in order to prioritize my own emotional well-being?
✨ What To Do Next
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