Dating Red Flag: When Your Values Don’t Align
The Situation
"He has completely different values than me"
The Brutal Truth
His values completely clash with yours, indicating a fundamental incompatibility. This isn’t just a minor issue; it’s a glaring red flag that your relationship lacks a solid foundation built on shared beliefs. Time to rethink this connection.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to convince themselves that they can change their own values to accommodate his, fearing that they won’t find someone else who matches their needs. This is dangerous; compromising your core beliefs leads to resentment and loss of self.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would a relationship based on shared values look like for you, and do you believe you deserve that?
✨ What To Do Next
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