Why his excuses for not paying you back are a huge red flag
The Situation
"He said he'll pay me back but keeps making excuses"
The Brutal Truth
This guy is using excuses as a tool to avoid accountability. He likely doesn’t respect your time or money, and it's a sign he’s not taking your relationship—platonic or romantic—seriously. His behavior demonstrates a lack of respect and responsibility.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might start questioning their worth, sending follow-up texts to apologize for potentially upsetting him or convincing themselves it’s all their fault. This is toxic self-doubt, and it only empowers his insincerity.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What message am I sending about my worth by allowing excuses to slide?
✨ What To Do Next
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