Understanding Defensive Behavior in Dating: Trust Your Worth
The Situation
"He gets defensive when I ask where his money goes"
The Brutal Truth
His defensiveness reveals insecurity and a lack of transparency. Instead of addressing your concern, he focuses on self-protection, indicating possible financial irresponsibility or deceit. This reaction is a red flag for someone unwilling to engage in healthy communication about money or feelings.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might over-apologize or withdraw from the conversation, thinking it's their fault for asking. This is wrong because it reinforces the toxic behavior and undermines your worth instead of fostering open communication.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
How comfortable are you discussing finances in relationships, and what boundaries should you set around this topic?
✨ What To Do Next
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