Dating Someone Who Uses Substances: What You Need to Know
The Situation
"She uses substances to cope and won't get help"
The Brutal Truth
She's using substances as a crutch and refuses help. This indicates she’s not ready to confront her issues or invest in a relationship—leaving you emotionally abandoned.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might feel responsible, attempt to fix her, or draw closer out of fear of losing her. This is toxic because it enables her behavior and neglects their own needs.
💭 Something to Reflect On
How does her refusal to seek help reflect on your standards for relationships?
✨ What To Do Next
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