Understanding Double Standards: When He Rejects Dowries Yet Demands Traditional Gender Roles
The Situation
"He says dowries are outdated but demands traditional gender roles"
The Brutal Truth
He wants all the benefits of traditional relationships without any responsibilities. He’s pushing outdated norms while pretending to be progressive—a clear desire for control rather than equality.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
If you’re anxious, you might try to please him by engaging in the traditional roles he wants, thinking that will keep him around. This is wrong because it compromises your values and self-worth, making you lose sight of what you truly desire.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does accepting traditional gender roles say about what you believe you deserve in a relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
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