How to Recognize Emotional Labor in Dating
The Situation
"He expects me to do all the emotional labor"
The Brutal Truth
He’s putting the burden of intimacy entirely on you, expecting you to navigate feelings, talk through issues, and keep the connection alive. This isn’t partnership; it’s a sign of emotional unavailability and a lack of accountability.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might over-communicate their feelings, seeking constant reassurance and fearing they’re responsible for the relationship’s success. This creates a toxic cycle where they sacrifice their own needs.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would it look like to prioritize your emotional well-being over someone else's expectations?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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