Overcoming Fear of Setting Boundaries in Dating
The Situation
"I'm scared to set boundaries because he might leave"
The Brutal Truth
His unwillingness to accept your boundaries reveals he values control over your well-being. If you're scared he might leave, you're prioritizing his comfort over your own self-respect. That's a recipe for toxic attachment.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might suppress their needs, fearing confrontation or rejection. This is dangerous; it fosters resentment and leads to further disempowerment. Your needs matter, and compromising them isn't love.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
If you valued your boundaries as much as you value his feelings, how would that change your actions in this relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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