What to Do When Someone Says Your Feelings Don't Matter
The Situation
"She said my feelings don't matter"
The Brutal Truth
This statement shows a complete disregard for your emotions. It means they prioritize their needs over yours and lack empathy. It's a red flag signaling emotional unavailability or manipulation.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to over-explain their feelings or appease the other person to gain validation. This is unhealthy because it reinforces the idea that your feelings are secondary and keeps you trapped in a toxic dynamic.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What part of you believes your feelings are less important than others'?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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