Feeling Guilty for Having Needs in a Relationship?
The Situation
"He makes me feel guilty for having needs"
The Brutal Truth
He's manipulating your feelings to suppress your needs and maintain control. By making you feel guilty, he insists that his comfort is more important than your well-being, signaling a lack of respect and emotional availability.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might overly apologize, suppress their needs, or try to accommodate him at the expense of their own happiness. This is wrong because it reinforces the toxic dynamic, making them more vulnerable to emotional manipulation.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What part of you is afraid to express your needs, and what would it liberate in you to do so?
✨ What To Do Next
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