Understanding the Red Flags: He Cheated and Blames You
The Situation
"He cheated and blames me for it"
The Brutal Truth
His cheating is a reflection of his poor choices and lack of accountability. By blaming you, he’s refusing to own his actions and is likely trying to manipulate you into feeling guilty. This is toxic behavior and a huge red flag.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to maintain the relationship by apologizing excessively or compromising their own needs to make him feel better. This is the wrong move because it further diminishes your self-worth and enables his toxic behavior.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What actions can I take to ensure I never feel responsible for someone else's betrayal again?
✨ What To Do Next
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