Why He Shuts Down When You Discuss Your Relationship: Red Flags to Watch
The Situation
"He shuts down every time I try to talk about our relationship"
The Brutal Truth
His shutting down means he's emotionally unavailable and unwilling to engage. It's a sign he may not want to commit or face the reality of your relationship, leaving you in a state of uncertainty and frustration.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might persistently chase after his attention, over-analyze his silence, or blame themselves for his behavior, which only creates more self-doubt. This is wrong because it undermines their own worth and does not hold him accountable for his actions.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What am I afraid of losing if I speak up for my needs in this relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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