What Does It Mean When He Wants to Live in a Different City?
The Situation
"He wants to live in a different city than I do"
The Brutal Truth
His desire to live in a different city means he’s either not ready to commit or he expects you to compromise your life for him. His priorities are not aligned with yours, showing a lack of consideration for your needs.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person may panic and start overthinking every detail, attempting to convince themselves that a relationship can work despite the distance. This is misguided; it neglects their own needs and can lead to settling for less than they deserve.
💭 Something to Reflect On
How does this situation reflect my values and what I truly want in a partner?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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