Dating Conflict: He Wants Kids, You Don't—What Now?
The Situation
"He said he wants kids but I don't"
The Brutal Truth
His insistence on wanting kids while you don’t shows a fundamental disconnect in values. It likely means he’s not serious about your needs and is more focused on his future vision than building a partnership with you.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to convince themselves they'll change their mind or that love will make everything work out. This is a harmful belief! You can't compromise your core values and needs for someone else's dream.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does it say about my worth if I consider compromising my own desires for someone else's vision?
✨ What To Do Next
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